As a grief counselor with years of experience in supporting individuals through the process of mourning, I'm familiar with various models that describe the stages of grief. The model you've mentioned, which outlines seven stages, is a simplified version of the more comprehensive
Kübler-Ross model, which was initially developed to describe the emotions experienced by terminally ill patients. However, it has since been adapted to describe the stages of grief after any significant loss.
The
Kübler-Ross model traditionally includes the following stages:
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Denial and Isolation: The initial reaction to the loss, which can involve disbelief or denial that it has occurred.
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Anger: Once the reality of the loss sets in, feelings of anger and resentment may follow.
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Bargaining: This stage involves a person trying to regain control by making promises or seeking to negotiate with a higher power or fate.
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Depression: As the individual comes to terms with the reality of the loss, deep sadness and despair may set in.
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Acceptance: The final stage, where the person begins to adapt to the new reality without the lost entity.
It's important to note that not everyone goes through these stages in the same order, or at all. Grief is a highly individual process, and each person's experience is unique.
However, some models expand on these stages to include more detailed steps. Here is an expanded version that includes twelve stages, which might be closer to what you're asking about:
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Shock and Disbelief: The initial reaction to the loss, which can involve numbness or disbelief.
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Emotional Numbness: A period where the reality of the loss has not yet fully registered.
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Pain and Guilt: Feelings of regret and guilt about the loss can emerge.
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Anger and Bargaining: Anger may be directed at oneself, others, or a higher power, along with attempts to bargain for the return of the lost.
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Depression, Reflection, and Loneliness: A period of deep sadness and reflection on the loss.
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The Upward Turn: A gradual shift from deep despair to a more hopeful state.
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Reconstruction and Working Through: The individual begins to rebuild their life and find ways to cope with the loss.
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Renewed Faith and Strength: A sense of renewed purpose and strength can emerge.
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Renewed Personal Growth: The person starts to grow and develop new aspects of their identity.
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Rebuilding Relationships: The individual begins to form new relationships or strengthen existing ones.
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Searching for Meaning: The person seeks to find meaning in the loss and how it fits into their life story.
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Acceptance and Hope: The final stage, where the person has come to accept the loss and looks forward with hope.
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